As parents, we all worry about our children, and most likely all of the time. There is nothing anybody could do to stop us from worrying because our children are our lives, and all we want is for them to be safe and happy.
However, we may worry about things that are unlikely to happen, and are simply out of our control. Letting our kids live while giving them our love and support is one of the best ways to deal with these things. There are specific worries that come with having school-age kids, as well as ways we can ease those worries.
Are they safe?
When our kids are homeschooled, we don’t worry as much about harm coming to them, especially because they are under our (almost) constant supervision. However, if you are not homeschooling, then you may initially feel worried about their safety.
Some ongoing concerns from parents of today’s public/private-school are:
- Is my child/children being bullied?
- Are teachers keeping a watchful eye?
- Are they safe while walking around, particularly as they get older and catch the school bus alone?
- Are their educational needs being met?
Safety can be a huge worry for all parents, even if you don’t send your kids to school. We know what kids are like, and anything could happen, even in the home. Taking our eyes off them for one second is enough for them to accidentally come to some harm.
Wherever your kids are, you can’t watch them all of the time. But, you can teach them skills that they need to know. For starters, consider these practical tips for homeschoolers:
- Discussing home hazards such as that the stove being hot.
- Not running in the home to prevent hurting themselves or damaging something.
- Safety when eating, and that they shouldn’t keep trying to eat play-doh. (LOL!)
- Playing with toys the proper way to prevent breaking them.
The only difference, if your children are going to school, is that we have to teach them the school safety tips to help them to stay safe. Consider these practical tips for school-goers:
- Establish a good relationship with the teachers and administration.
- Be familiar with, and follow, class and school rules.
- Listen carefully to instructions and ask when something is not understood.
- Always be mindful of surroundings and get help if something out of the ordinary is seen.
Regardless if a child is homeschooled or not, their safety is always at the top of our worry list. May we encouraged to not worry, but have faith that we are always providing them the safest environment possible.
Are they happy?
Another worry high on our lists is whether or not our children are happy. When they are homeschooled, it’s easier to monitor how your child is doing, but there are difficulties in every family situation. Knowing how they feel can be a constant battle, and you may worry whether they aren’t telling you things.
On the opposite end of the concern is whether they’re actually feeling happy and secure in the lives that they are leading. As parents, we always want to know that our kids are OK. Common concerns are:
- Have I overlooked something?
- Should I talk to them about (insert any life lesson)?
- Will they talk to me if they want to know about _________?
- Are they hiding something?
To help ease your “am I the only one” thoughts, these concerns are natural to have. The fact that you’re thinking about these things is a sign that you’re doing all that you can as a parent to think about your child and how they’re feeling.
Nobody is perfect, but our children are likely to tell us about how they’re feeling if we do all that we can to show them that we have listening ears, and a shoulder to cry on if they ever need it. You won’t always know what to say, and sometimes our kids just want to talk to us about what is on their minds.
I once heard that a problem shared is a problem halved, so whether your kids are homeschooled, or they’re having problems at school, sharing them with you will help them to feel happier.
As parents, we can give ourselves grace when it comes to worrying about our kids. Although 30% of parents admitted that they fear their child will be hurt in an accident, we don’t have to focus on the what-if’s. The main thing to acknowledge is that our kids need to learn, and we can be there to help them through the process.
Simply put, there will always be things that we can do as parents, to help our children feel safe, secure, and happy. From teaching the basics on safety to how to be safe while cooking in the kitchen – the process is ongoing. And when it comes to happiness, keeping an eye on their mood is key.
So hey mama, don’t worry (too much), you’re doing great!