Home Education, Spiritual

Hey Homeschool Mom, STOP Letting Limiting Beliefs Define You

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Moment of confession: we all have limiting beliefs, am I right? Let’s take our confession a step further and admit that we also allow limiting beliefs define us.

If that weren’t the case there wouldn’t be books, movies, conferences, and blog posts like these to combat it. So now that we aired the dirty laundry, let’s talk about four ways to go from letting our limiting beliefs define us to walking unapologetically authentic – especially as homeschooling moms.

IDENTIFY THEM

Admitting the fact that you have limiting beliefs is a good step forward. But, that’s not enough. Now comes the often overlooked (and daunting) task of identifying them.

What are your limiting beliefs? As a homeschooling mom, you’ve probably believed many of these:

  • I’m afraid I’m not doing a good job.
  • I don’t know how to be mom and teacher.
  • I feel guilty for pulling my kids out of school.
  • I’m worried what other think.
  • Everything I try doesn’t make it better.
  • I don’t know how to handle the hard day.

This list could literally go on and on. And that’s okay. It’s all part of identifying what your limiting beliefs are so you can move on to the next step. Keep in mind and decide now that these beliefs will no longer define you!

FACE THEM

This is where most people stop and try to take a detour, landing them right back at facing them all over again. I did this for a long time. I could admit that I had some pretty stinkin’ thinkin’ about myself, but I wouldn’t face it.

I would brush it off and attempt to go about my merry way being a better wife, mom, homeschooling mom, and business owner. The harsh reality is not facing my limiting beliefs didn’t mean they’d go away.

It meant that it would only be a matter of time before they’d begin to show in everything I attempted to do. I had to come to a place where identifying them wasn’t enough. Facing them wasn’t enough. I wanted them gone.

Facing them prepares you for that. However, it’s consciously choosing that you want to [and will] move beyond simply facing your limiting beliefs – living free of them.

It’s one thing to say, “My homeschool doesn’t look like [hers].” but another thing to believe that you can be okay with your not-so-ordinary homeschool.

When thinking becomes believing, it’s time for the next step.

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REPLACE THEM

In order for you to start seeing a different pep in your step, it’s time to replace your limiting beliefs. This is the point where enough is ENOUGH. No more identifying and facing them and expecting things to miraculously be different.

Now is the time to replace those limiting beliefs with affirmations. And not just any affirmation either. I’m talking about affirmations that get into the depths of your very being, provoking a change that will be evident in your actions.

The limiting belief of – “If I could only get it right!” – becomes – I TRUST MYSELF TO MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION!

“I don’t know how to handle hard days.” becomes I WILL FIND WAYS TO IMPROVISE ON HARD DAYS!

“I can’t figure out how to do this.” becomes I WILL FIND UNIQUE WAYS TO TEACH MY UNIQUE CHILDREN!

An affirmation should be something you can actively walk out, not something you merely say and maybe believe.

EMBRACE THE NEW YOU

Best believe that you will see a big change in every area of your life. Others will notice it too. As you begin to walk out the cycle of-

  • identifying limiting beliefs
  • facing your limiting beliefs
  • replacing the limited belief [with doable affirmations]

you will be a different person. Your new train of thinking will auto-correct your course in those moments when limiting beliefs try to regain control.

Your new thought process will help you see the positive in even the most negative situations. You’ll see blessed instead of stressed. You’ll see how unique you, your children, and your homeschool are (and how awesome that is).

And the biggest thing I’ve noticed in walking this out is that it never stops. Limiting beliefs will always be there to latch on to us. It’s about coming to the point where we decide to not let our limiting beliefs define us.

HELP IS HERE

In my best-selling book, Just for Today’s Homeschooling Mom, I tackle ten chapters worth of limiting beliefs.

At the end of every chapter, I help you identify the most common limiting beliefs that we as homeschooling moms deal with and provide you with life-changing affirmations.

You’ll also find Scripture for meditating and journaling, as well as prayer and journal space for noting your personal reflections.

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My Not-So Ordinary Homeschool

No matter how hard I tried to align my homeschool with what was typical or ordinary it. just. didn’t. work. I went into homeschooling with a brick and mortar teacher mentality anyways, which basically meant that I tried using “classroom tactics”.

Or in other words, ways used to teach other people’s children. It didn’t take long to realize that wasn’t going to work…

Once I realized that a classroom-style teaching approach wasn’t going to work, I took a natural trip down comparison lane.

I started comparing my homeschool to how others were homeschooling, big time. Normally it would be okay to glean ideas or suggestive ways to tweak and homeschool your way, but I took it too far.

What I mean is if I saw something working amazing for that Mom, I wanted to depict her way into my homeschool exactly how she was doing it… not realizing [at the moment] that the “mock-theory” would only last a short while and I’d still be left with trying yet another way.

Then I started to research different learning styles.

Having been a former teacher, I knew about learning styles but more in the context of a collective classroom of children. However, while writing my book, Just for Today’s Homeschooling Mom, I took a deep dive in the world of learning styles and paid more attention from an individual aspect.

I give a rundown in my book (starting on page 101) to help you identify the varying learning styles. After studying these styles, it didn’t take long to recognize that my children range from physical and social to verbal and visual learners.

I started to see that each of my children possess unique ways of learning, and each would need their individual academic journey’s to match that.

Understanding my kiddos’ unique learning styles opened the door to understanding homeschooling methods.

There are more and more methods being added as the years past and I’m so grateful for that. You see, at first, I wasn’t comfortable not fitting in with a certain style or method, but I also wasn’t comfortable with the thought of being somewhere ‘out there’. (cache 22)

Before being comfortable with my not-so ordinary homeschool, I thought I had to fit into one mold… I mean, how could we possibly incorporate a little bit of this and a little bit of that and be successful?? The answer is: you just do it. Simple.

You do whatever your family dynamic calls for. My current family dynamic looks like a blended family with three of the four children being 4 years old and under. From my husband down to our second to youngest (as of now Baby M is a year old), we span across all the learning styles, which makes for a hefty Heinz 57. Therefore, our homeschooling depicts that.

If you take a microscope to my homeschool, you’ll find that we exhibit every homeschooling method out there except school-at-home (tried that and failed big time). One day (or week) we may be schooling through a unit study. Another day we may be doing a Charlotte Mason style (especially with my toddler and preschooler).

Sometimes we go the Montessori route and focus on our children learning a concept at their own pace without using technology (TV, YouTube, Netflix, etc.). The base of our homeschooling is definitely built on an eclectic, relaxed, multiple intelligence, unschooling foundation.

That’s why I consider my homeschool not so ordinary, and I’m totally okay with it! It only took me the first couple of years to work through the red tape that is common to most homeschoolers. Thing is, sometimes we can get trapped in that tape and homeschooling begins to look like a burden or a decision of regret.

My hope is that doesn’t happen to other families. We all have our own choices as to why we want to educate our children at home and our homeschool’s should be just as unique and special as our family’s are.

There is no mold to fit. There is no status quo to reach. There is only your way, and your way is what will get the job done. Be confident in that fact.

 

CHIME IN: What does your unique homeschool look like? What styles and methods do you use? Did you struggle finding your own extraordinary journey to successfully homeschooling? Please share in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!

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