Family: Marriage & Parenting

Family-Style Self-Care

Before my moment of awakening to family-style self-care, I used to think I needed to get out of the house and away from it all to really enjoy true self-care. Don’t get me wrong, having a day at the salon or an evening out with the ladies is certainly okay!

But I’m talking about the other 98% of the time when you have a baby on the hip, maybe even one in the belly, another attached to your leg, and the other one yelling from the bedroom. Not to mention, dishes in the sink, laundry in the washer (and dryer), two-week old dust on the furniture, meals to plan… do I even need to continue??

Family style self care. How to do it as a family.

Instead of “getting away” to take the focus off of all those things, it finally clicked that I could enjoy self-care with my family. This may not sound like soothing self-care at all, but hear me out.

As a wife and mom, doing things by myself are few, far, and between the throws of life. I figured that in addition to “mommy needing her alone time,” I could show my children the importance of self-care and how to foster it.

Benefits of a Family-Style Self-Care Routine

The idea of having a self-care routine for the family goes far beyond the act itself. It also helps:

  • model character traits that will follow our children into adulthood (think about your childhood memories that start with “my mama/daddy used to ___” and end with something that positively impacts how you do something today)
  • increase family bonds and enhances individual relationships between parents and siblings (less fighting and more loving)
  • develop and/or tweak skills involved around physical, mental, and emotional awareness (drastically cut back on misplaced emotions that can lead to flare ups, tantrums, and/or meltdowns)
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Ideas for Your Family-Style Self-Care Routine

If your family is anything like mine then you have a nursing baby, two toddlers, a sassy daughter who’s 6 going on 16, and a teenage boy. With my big family (and yours) in mind, here are some ideas for your family-style self-care routine:

  • Set aside a time each week or month and plan self-care activities together. Get everyone’s input, down to the 2 year old.
  • Consider activities that include something that each family member enjoys. This will help everyone learn more about each other too, and feel appreciated.
  • Involve activities where each family member is doing something and feels involved. For example, for movie night, have the youngest get the bowls while the older ones cook the popcorn.
  • Activities to consider (with no electronics):
    • family Bible study
    • reading you favorite books/stories
    • movie night
    • prepare and cook a meal together
    • make a sweet treat together
    • journal together
    • color pictures
    • draw pictures together
    • have a dance party
    • game night
    • karaoke
    • intentional playtime (park, activity center, etc.)
    • whatever else you can think of

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This may or may not be something new for you family, but it is for ours and we’ve loved every minute of it! To help make this family-style self-care planning successful for your family, enjoy this free printable to help you brainstorm! Print and laminate the 2nd page to hang on your refrigerator and use month after month! Enjoy!

CHIME IN: Share your ideas and tips in the comments below so others can be inspired to make memorable self-care moments!

Psst… are you a mom of daughters? Check out 5 Ways to Spend Time with Your Daughter and Teach Her Self-Care!

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2 Comments

  • Lisa V in BC

    Love these ideas! We just taught our older kids how to play Hand and Foot canasta – a 4 person game that my husband and I played with each set of our parents when we were dating and have great memories of!

    So much fun to carry on the tradition, reminisce with our parents and even play with them again as life got busy with little ones and those games just didn’t happen anymore.

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