Holistic Health & Wellness

Hey Girl, It’s Time to Love Yourself

I’m sure you’re already familiar with the terms self-love and self-care, but why are they so difficult to walk out? I don’t claim to have a universal answer, but one thing I do know for sure is that it almost always involves how we truly see ourselves.

All too often we navigate our days through fake smiles and dreams un-chased. When in all actuality we are bombarded with constant thoughts of what needs to be done or who needs caring for. Day after day taking care of ourselves gets pushed further and further down the list.

Admitting the Truth

I for one will admit that I’ve traded in a cute outfit paired with a cute pair of heels for pajama pants and a baggy t-shirt. My go-to hairdo is a messy bun and a headband. It’s so bad that my children ask where I’m going if I put on a pair of jeans and a “nicer” shirt. Even if I wanted to go somewhere that didn’t consist of Aldi, Wal-Mart, Office Max, or the bank, best believe I’d feel guilty about it.

Yeah, cue the violin and cry me a river.

The truth behind it all is I don’t love myself enough to take care of me, or invest in me. If I did, there wouldn’t be thoughts of who I’m hurting or what I’m causing someone to miss out on. I’d schedule that spa day with confidence, knowing that it’s for my good and those around me. You see, the truth of the matter is that when we’re not operating as our best self or living life on purpose, we suffer. And even more, those around us suffer.

My children can’t understand the root of my snappiness, or the base of my bitterness. They just see a mommy who sometimes complains a lot about wanting a break, or needing a moment to relax uninterrupted. They see me handling things completely opposite of how they should be handled. And that’s why I’ve made it a point to start loving myself. It’s time.

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The Process

Yeah, there’s a process. It’s commonly called “mindset work” or “renewing your mind.” Either way you look at, that too has to be done. If not, it’s only a matter of time before limiting beliefs creep back in and coax you to believe that somehow you got it all wrong. And no, you don’t. You deserve to have a renewed mind. You deserve to live a meaningful life. You deserve to live unapologetically authentic. And you deserve to love yourself.

I believe in this so much that I made an eBook, 21 Days of Self-Love. Each day you’ll be given an idea that can easily be incorporated into your lifestyle. If you’re anything like me you’ll probably skip some days or find it difficult to actually “fit it in,” and that’s okay. The point is to make it a habit to love yourself with no strings attached.

All you have to do next is grab your favorite journal, SCHEDULE in little blocks of time over the next 21 days, and COMMIT to making this lifestyle change. Also, I want to see what you’re doing. I want to know how you’re practicing radical self love. So here’s the deal… you can keep me in the loop on your journey by sending me an email, or on social media using the hashtag #21DaysofSelfLove.

Let’s do this. You know we need it.

CHIME IN: What’s your level of self-love? Could you love yourself better? Share your thoughts with me in the comments below!

Oh, and don’t forget to grab your free copy of my eBook, 21-Days of Self-Love (below)!



  • Alexandra

    I really feel I needed to read this post – I definitely need to work on this for sure. Thanks for the inspiration to make this change 🙂

  • Rachel

    Motivating yourself to do anything when you don’t care for yourself is so difficult. It’s funny how it snowballs when you do something kind to yourself then you feel better and when you feel better you do more self care. Just gotta get started, it’s time!

  • NaConda Frank

    I have been trying to bring myself to share with my children about me suffering from anxiety & depression. They see me “not having a good day” and sometimes randomly lashing out at them for small things, but now knowing why Mommy is being cray-cray. I feel like if I let them know what’s going on with me, they can know that I’m not being mean or unruly with them on purpose. I think sharing this with them will allow them to know that when I want to go run an errand alone or yell “Go away right now!” while I’m holding back tears, that Mommy isn’t in a good place and it’s not because of them. Last year, I made a goal to do more to take care myself because I’m always taking care of everyone else. I have to, to keep my sanity! I loved reading this! It’s always good to know that other mamas are in the same boat as me and support is there!

    • Michelle

      Yasss!! I totally agree. It is so humbling to include our children in our struggles and I feel like it also helps them to prepare for the realities in life. XO So happy you are taking care of you sis!

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