Holistic Health & Wellness, Spiritual

2020 Health & Wellness Goals: A Biblical Perspective

2020 is upon us. We’re entering into a new decade now. It’s the time of year when many are setting new goals, resolutions and making their plans for the New Year.

Many of these will include health & wellness goals for the year of 2020. This is great! I believe we all need to be working towards becoming more of who we’re truly meant to be. This includes continually improving upon our health & wellness.

But! Before you set your 2020 health & wellness goals in stone, I implore you to consider setting your goals and intentions from a Biblical perspective.

Seek Our Creator First, Not Man

Unfortunately, many Believers don’t truly seek our heavenly Father’s wisdom when it comes to the area of health & wellness. We seek Him for many other things but tend to turn to the “experts” when it comes to our health. Many get caught up with all the fad diets, jumping from this diet to that diet to the next diet.

Many tend to forget true health & wellness is actually more than just diet. Also, many misunderstand what diet really means; this contributes to continually trying new “diets” far too often. Over time this damages the body in a variety of ways. 

It’s unfortunate many Believers decide to go with the popular choice of the day rather than choosing the Father’s diet plan. He intelligently created this plan for us. And truthfully, for many, we don’t need another “diet” we need a lifestyle change.

It’s time to choose to trust & believe that the beginning of true health & wellness is following our Creator’s eating plan and His way of living.

Interestingly enough, our intelligent Creator has laid out very plainly a way of living. This way of living includes a diet plan, as well as blessings or curses depending on if we follow His ways or not.

The Blessings & Curses of Health & Wellness

One doesn’t need to look far to see the numerous health concerns out there today. There’s a plethora of autoimmune diseases, 3 types of diabetes, and numerous mental concerns. Obesity, heart disease, infertility, PMS, and cancer are on the rise. And sadly, there’s much more that could be added to this list of growing aliments.

And things are really only getting worse.

The thing is, for Believers, we’ve been warned about this at the beginning of our Bibles. Our Creator tells us plainly in His Word what will happen if we choose to follow or not follow His ways.

Below are 7 verses which share these blessings and curses:

Blessings & Curses in Scripture

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See, I am setting before you today a blessing and a curse – the blessing, if you listen to the mitzvot (commandments) of Yahweh your Elohim (God) that I am giving you today; and the curse, if you don’t listen to the mitzvot of Yahweh your Elohim, but turn aside from the way I am ordering you today and follow other gods that you have not known.” 

Deuteronomy 11:26-28

IF you listen closely to what Yahweh your Elohim says, observing and obeying all this mitzvot which I am giving you today, Yahweh your Elohim will raise you high above all the nations on earth; and all the following blessing will be yours in abundance – if you will do what Yahweh your Elohim says:”

Deuteronomy 28:1-2

BUT if you refuse to pay attention to what Yahweh your Elohim says, and do not observe and obey all His mitzvot and regulations which I am giving you today, then all the following curses will be yours in abundance:”

Deuteronomy 28:15

IF you will not observe and obey all the words of this Torah that are written in this book, so that you will fear this glorious and awesome name, Yahweh your Elohim; then Yahweh will strike down you and your descendants with extraordinary plagues and severe sicknesses that go on and on. He will bring back upon you all the diseases the Egyptians had, which you were in dread of; and they will cling to you. Not only that, but Yahweh will bring upon you all the sicknesses and plagues that are not written in this book of the Torah – until you are destroyed. You will be left few in number, whereas you were once as numerous as the stars in the sky – because you did not pay attention to the voice of Yahweh your Elohim.”

Deuteronomy 28: 58-62

Therefore, observe the words of this covenant and obey them; so that you can make everything you do prosper.”

Deuteronomy 29:8

I call on heaven and earth to witness against you today that I have presented you with life and death, the blessing and the curse. Therefore, choose life, so that you will live, you and your descendants, loving Yahweh your Elohim, paying attention to what He says and clinging to Him – for that is the purpose of your life!”

Deuteronomy 30:19-20a

Take Him at His Word, Especially for your Health & Wellness

Unfortunately, far too many don’t take our Creator seriously when He shared with us if we choose not to follow His ways we will suffer curses, many of which are health-related. I highly encourage you to go and prayerfully read Deuteronomy 28-30; seeking His wisdom while you read it.

If we truly believe our heavenly Father is the Ultimate Source of wisdom, then we need to choose to take Him at His Word, trusting in His intelligent design.

When it comes to our health & wellness goals of 2020 may we all see the intelligent wisdom in our Creator’s dietary food laws and the value of following and obeying them.

Thankfully, eating Biblically clean isn’t actually hard to do. We’re told in Deuteronomy 30:11 following His ways aren’t too hard for us. Glory halleluYah! 🙌🏻

How to Follow a Biblically Clean Diet

As I just mentioned, following a Biblically clean diet isn’t actually hard. Sure we may have to give up a few things, but what’s a little diet clean-up compared to the joy of knowing we’re living a more pleasing life to our Creator?  

Here are 6 simple and easy steps to start eating a Biblically clean diet:

  1. Eat according to our Creators clean and unclean list found in Lev. 11 and Deut. 14
  2. Choose organic whenever possible, avoiding genetically modified foods
  3.  Avoid processed foods, added sugars, artificial sugars, flavours, and colourings
  4. If you choose to eat grains only consume soaked and sprouted grains; avoid processed flours that are not soaked/sprouted, especially wheat
  5. Eat a well-balanced diet: don’t over-consume one food group. Unless its veggies, eating lots of veggies is generally a pretty wise idea 😉
  6. Avoid conventional dairy and meats. These aren’t just terrible for our health; they go against many of the Biblical guidelines of how to treat people, animals and our planet.

What about Real Health Ailments?

If you do feel you need to try out a new diet for health reasons, such as diabetes, an autoimmune disease, cancer, depression, etc., I highly recommend working with a qualified health coach/practitioner, naturopathic doctor or functional medicine practitioner before doing things yourself.

As one who studies nutrition & health-related subjects, I understand the necessity of bio-individuality when it comes to diet. I see there’s generally not one thing that truly works for every single person on earth today. And why is that? Because we’re choosing not to follow our intelligent Creator, as well as all of the toxicity and dis-ease we have here on planet earth.

I believe it is necessary for many to seek the guidance and counsel of professionals. Working with someone to help understand the root cause of the dis-ease is essential sometimes. But starting with seeking the wisdom of our heavenly Father and following His intelligently designed plan is the first and most important step in creating true and lasting health & wellness.

I also believe the one thing that truly does work for every person is following a Biblical diet. This doesn’t necessarily mean a “kosher” diet because while Pepsi is actually “kosher” it’s definitely not healthy or Biblically clean! A Biblically clean diet is following His dietary guidelines, eating as much fresh and organic whole foods as possible.

In Leviticus 11 and Deuteronomy 14 these guidelines are laid out for us. I encourage you to go and refamiliarize yourself with them if you’ve forgotten some.

Health & Wellness for 2020: Beyond Diet

As I mentioned earlier, true health & wellness isn’t just what diet we’re following, it’s so much more. Being holistic beings (spirit, soul, mind, and body) we need to approach ourselves as such.

Therefore, for your health & wellness goals of 2020 I also highly encourage you to remember to include things such as:

  • spending daily, quality time with our Creator
  • meditating upon His Word
  • practice speaking His truth throughout the day
  • truly believing our Heavenly Father and taking Him at His Word
  • moving your body regularly
  • eating more vegetables
  • seeking His wisdom daily
  • becoming who you are truly meant to be in Him
  • let go of what isn’t serving you, such as old habits, past hurts, unforgiveness, bitterness and the like

This year my hope and prayer for you is that you pray and seek our heavenly Father and His guidance for your 2020 health & wellness goals. May you choose to make this the year you take Him at His Word, live according to His intelligent design, and trust He is not only wise but knows best.

And always remember, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is valuable for teaching the truth, convicting of sin, correcting faults and training in right living.” {2 Timothy 3:16}}Dear friends, I am praying that everything in 2020 prospers with you and that you will be in good health, just as you prosper spiritually. {3 John 2}

Rebecca is a daughter of the Ultimate Creator, Whole Bible Believer, disciple of Yahshua, devoted wife to Ben, homeschooling momma to three, and dog-mom to one ori-pei (who’s pretty much just like another kid). She’s a reader, writer, creator and is definitely considered a “crunchy” momma but is unsure of how she feels about the term “crunchy”. She’s passionate about true Biblical Holistic Health through faith, psychology & nutrition and she writes, teaches and shares about it on her website, rebeccaschartner.com as well as on her Instagram account @rebeccaschartner
If you’re looking for more ways on how to live a more Biblically holistic life be sure to grab her free ebook, 6 Tips to Live a Biblically Holistic Life, and check out her 10 Day Biblically Holistic Reset Cleanse.
Home Education, Spiritual

Shalom in the Home(School)

It’s pretty to safe to say that I’ve heard it all. “How can you be around your children all day? Are you stuck at home all the time? Do you ever get stressed out?” The questions are valid, indeed – especially the last one (LOL)!

The truth of the matter is, without shalom in the home, homeschooling can be stressful and overwhelming. The question now becomes, “How do I create shalom in my home(school) so that it’s pleasant to be around my children all day… okay if we’re “stuck” at home… and have joy in the midst of feeling stressed and/or burned out?”

The Nature of Shalom

You may not know this, but my family and I love the Hebrew language. It’s our second language of choice and we have goals to one day speak it fluently. You’re probably familiar with its Western definition – “peace”, or perhaps the Jewish greeting “hi (or bye)”.

The true nature (and meaning) of this is so much deeper and holds so much wisdom in how we can create shalom in our home(schools).

Shalom comes from the root word “shalam,” which in a nutshell means – “to be safe in mind, body, or estate.” It speaks of completeness, fullness, or a type of wholeness that can be seen, heard, and felt.

Looking at shalom from a biblical perspective takes it even deeper! This viewpoint refers to an inward sense of completeness or wholeness. Although shalom can describe the absence of war, a majority of biblical references refer to an inner completeness and tranquility. 

With this in mind, let’s look at three ways to have shalom in the home(school).

Seek Inner Peace through God’s Countenance & Protection

“Speak to Aharon and his sons saying, ‘This is how you bless the children of Israel. Say to them: YHVH bless you and guard you; YHVH make His face shine upon you, and show favor to you; YHVH lift up His face upon, and give you peace.” – Numbers 6:23-26

Many are familiar with the Aaronic blessing. A bit of back story, God was telling Aaron to bless Israel with peace while they were getting ready to go conquer the Promised Land. If the Western definition of peace (without war or conflict) were true in the case, it wouldn’t make much sense.

Plug in the Hebraic and biblical definition of inner peace and completeness, now it makes sense. Israel needed this inner peace combined with God’s countenance and protection; hence, why I believe this is a vital key in having shalom in the home(school). 

Choosing to live a life different from the world will always bring a certain level of war and strife. However, when we declare, decree, and walk in the countenance and protection of the Most High God, we and our family’s become better for it.

This same principle should be applied within the home where an entirely different kind of war and strife can occur. Whether it’s martial issues, sibling rivalry, or some other kind of discord – possessing an inner peace can radiate and touch the lives of others within your home.

Pray for Restoration

“Pray for the peace of Yerushalayim, let those who love You be at rest. Peace be within your walls, rest in your citadels. For the sake of my brothers and companions, I say, ‘Peace be within you.'” – Psalms 122:6-8

While today’s prayers for Jerusalem are peace-from-war based (and rightfully so), this particular passage of prayer from King David was more from the perspective of Jerusalem fulfilling its destiny.

Think for a moment about God’s destiny for families. Looking at the big picture, I believe it is the parent’s responsibility to prepare children for a God-worthy life lived here on earth, but also preparation for eternal life with the Father.

Surely as the sky is blue, the journey to accomplishing those two things can come with ups and downs that will need some restoring. When praying for restoration (and in some cases, revival for certain family members), we can keep in mind that at the foundation is inner peace and completeness.

Now plug in your family name in replacement of Jerusalem and read/say those verses again. This is a prayer definitely worth adding to your chats with God!

Be a Peacemaker

“Blessed are the peacemakers, because they shall be called sons of Elohim.” – Matthew 5:9

This is another verse that can easily lose its true meaning due to words having different meanings depending on where you’re from. Westernized thinking will see the word peacemaker and instantly think politicians and negotiators; however, that was not the Messiah’s thought process.

He is actually referring to those who carry an inward sense of the fullness and safety that is only available through son-ship with the Most High God. This brings us back full circle with the first suggestion of seeking inner peace through God’s countenance and protection.

There comes a point where a person can be so filled with shalom that it spills out from them and pours onto others. This is when people say things like, “So-and-so sure is a blessing to be around. She has such a peace about her…” This can and should be happening within the walls of our homes. Spouses and children alike should see one another as peaceable beings who are safe and trustworthy.

Applying This to Your Homeschool

You probably noticed that I didn’t talk much about the actual homeschool. There’s a good reason for this. In my most honest and humble opinion, I believe that having our homes in order should be the first order of business.

When our homes are thriving, it seems that all else falls into place. I’ve also always been an advocate of helping people understand that your family doesn’t have to change because you homeschool, but allow your family to change how you homeschool.

Each of the aforementioned suggestions can be applied in every area of life – your workplace, with extended family, friendships, etc. The main principle to see shalom from its true meaning and allowing that to change you from the inside out.

May I pray for you?

If this blog post resonated with you I’d love to hear your thoughts! Drop a comment below and let me know what you’re thinking. I’d also like to pray for you, your family, and your homeschool journey. Fill out the form below with your prayer requests! I’m also available to discuss this principle with you in more detail and help you create shalom in your home(school)!

Holistic Health & Wellness, Spiritual

The Power of Positive Thoughts: Manifesting a Powerful New Year

Yep, it’s that time of year again. The resolution declarations start. The goals are made. And typically a word or phrase is announced. I’m not gonna act like I didn’t have a word or phrase for this year (and next) because I did (and do).

My word for 2019 was cultivate and that is an absolutely correct depiction of what this year was like for me. As for 2020, I had a dream months ago about what I could expect – seeing clearly. For a person who needs glasses and the Messiah to see, I understood what God was telling me.

Anyways, what I’d like to share with you is not necessarily a resolution, a goal, or even a word/phrase to carry into your new year. I want to chat about the power of positive thoughts and how those thoughts can help you manifest a powerful new year.

Provokes thinking.

The Power of Thoughts

Before diving into some practical thought processes that can change your life, and your year, let’s talk about the power thoughts actually have. I’m sure you’re familiar with that already, but it’s worth revisiting.

I choose to believe and follow the Most High God (YHVH) and His Holy Inspired Scriptures. All throughout you can find many Scriptures that discuss the mind and thoughts that we have.

The underlying principle is your thoughts have the power to create change. What this change ends up looking like is up to you. One thing I’ve learned in my 35 years of life is that I am always one thought and decision away from living my best life.

I’m not trying to sound all new-agey, but it’s the truth. Whether I’m experiencing the good, the bad, or the ugly – I can still choose to be thankful, grateful, and blessed. This is also a thought process in and of itself. One that I fail at having more than I’d like to remember.

Practical Thought Processes

With that being said, let’s talk about some practical thought processes that can help manifest a powerful new year.

Practice Renewing Your Mind

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you prove what is that good and well-pleasing and perfect desire of Elohim.” – Romans 12:2

It’s so easy to follow trends, hop on bandwagons, and go for the sparkly and pretty. At the end of the day, if thoughts are leading you to think, act, and desire the ways of the world – you mind needs renewal.

Yes, it’s hard. The world and its ways are all around us. Living set-apart from the world is not popular. In fact, it gets trash-talked and ridiculed; however, it’s worth it in the end.

Renew your mind by reading and meditating on what Scripture says. Whatever you’re struggling with, find it in the Word and soak it up!

Practice Thinking Positive

This is a biggie, and also one that tends to take a bad rap. Rightfully so if it’s through the perspective that there’s nothing else to do but “think” and not do. But that’s not what we’re talking about here.

“For the rest, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is righteous, whatever is clean, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good report, if there is any uprightness and if there is any praisethink on these.” – Philippians 4:8

That’s what I’m talking about. The ability to think positive, no matter what in your world is going on. And yeah, that’s tough. But it’s doable.

Think positive by thinking on truth, nobility, righteousness, cleanliness, loveliness, good reports, and anything that is upright.

Provokes looking into the new year.

Practice Taking Thoughts Captive

“For the weapons we fight with are not fleshly but mighty in Elohim for overthrowing stronghold, overthrowing reasonings and every high matter that exalts itself against the knowledge of Elohim, taking captive every thought to make it obedient to the Messiah.” – 2 Corinthians 10:4-5

Think about the times you’ve entertained stinkin’ thinkin’ versus casting that thought process down. What usually happened? The thought came in, set up shop, and most likely led you to thinking more negatively (and maybe even acting it out). Am I right?

There is a valid reason why we are told to take [disobedient] thoughts captive. One, I believe our thoughts are directly related to the spirit-realm. Going from what Scripture says, we are to walk according to the spirit. We are to act according to the spirit. And, we are to think according to the spirit.

Take thoughts captive by replacing them with Yah’s Truth.

Practice Thinking About Who’s You Are

“For as he reckons in his life, so is he.” – Proverbs 23:7a

This verse comes in the midst of King Solomon talking about rich men, their delicacies, as well as their evil eye. He was basically saying that as the man thinks, so is he – and, he could say one thing to you but his heart is not in it.

What are you reckoning in your life? In other words, how are you classifying yourself? Your thoughts (and thought process) are number one indicators of your answer to that question.

Thinking about Who’s you are has a way of helping you re-program your thoughts to ones that line up with what the Creator thinks of you.

Manifest a Powerful New Year

No matter what your previous years held for you, I am believing that you can manifest a powerful new year through the power of positive thoughts. Science proves so much of what Scripture teaches when it comes down to our thoughts carrying the power to manifest good and/or bad.

I will say this though, in all of your practicing to renew your mind, think positive, take thoughts captive, and think about Who’s you are – there is also a level of being still and trusting God to do His part.

Scripture exhibits the practicing of praying and meditating as a link to conquering the mind and thought process, but in this day and age, it’s almost unheard of. Most people don’t slow down enough to it, let alone live it!

Simply put, there are a few key things to keep in mind throughout this process. Remember that:

  • Your thought process has the ability to change the nature (wiring) of your brain.
  • When you think, you build thoughts, and these thoughts becomes physical substances in your brain.
  • You have the ability to “wire out” toxic patterns and replace them with healthy ones.

There are lots of other thought-related versus all throughout Scripture. My prayer is that you will see and harness the truth behind Yah’s timeless Word. What you allow into your mind determines your reality – and ultimately, your legacy. The power is yours.

CHIME IN: What are your thoughts about the new year? Are there any thought processes you need to work on? Let me know in the comments below!

Home Education, Spiritual

5 Ways to Use the Bible as the Main Textbook in Your Homeschool

At the top of most homeschooler’s list of “reasons why we homeschool” is the freedom to include more of our belief systems into our children’s educational journey. This simply translates into, “I want my child to grow up with a strong foundation and faith in the Most High God.” And rightfully so!

I consider myself a seasoned homeschooler; however, something that always boggled my mind was how to effectively and consistently use the Bible as the main textbook in my homeschool. Sure, I’ve heard it could be done – shucks, I even talked to Anne from Homeschooling Torah about it! Even still, I have struggled to actually do it consistently.

So, what I’ve come up with to help us both out are five ways to use the Bible as the main textbook in our homeschools. Perhaps having an exhausted list in one location with practical examples will help us get (and stay) on a track of using the Bible a lot more than we already do! My prayer is that us, and our children, will be greatly impacted by doing so!

Start the Day with the Word

This kind of start to the day has been named so many different things from circle time to morning basket time. Regardless of what you call it, including the Bible during these times is a great place to start.

If you have smaller children who are not yet reading, picking a Scripture or two to read and talk about works perfectly. For the older kiddos, invite them to do the reading and include their thoughts in the discussion about it.

Starting the day off with the Word is definitely a way to start it on a good note.

Use a Devotional

If you’re like me, you have every intention on starting every day with a prayer and maybe even a Scripture or two. The question then became, “What can I pray about and what Scriptures should I read?”

For this I created a family-style devotional. I included a monthly prayer that is to be read every day, the shema (part of Deuteronomy 6), and a chapter of Scripture to be read throughout the week.

I had no idea at the time that each month’s prayer and the weekly chapter readings would match perfectly to what’s going on in life. After going on two years of using this book, the same is still true!

Bible Journal

Designating a Bible journal time in your homeschooling schedule is another way to incorporate the Bible. If you choose to do this as a family (which actually isn’t a bad idea), try picking a topic to journal about each week. There are tons of options from the beginning of Scripture to the end.

For younger children, some go-to topics may be creation, Proverbs, or the fruit of the Spirit. For older children, consider topics that get them thinking like concepts from Psalms, Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, and even Job!

Then, after journal time, everyone can discuss what they journaled about.

Teach Core Subjects

Did you know that the Bible has every core subject (and beyond) that you can think of? Sometimes we can get overwhelmed and bogged down by all the curriculum options out there, but as Anne suggested in our video – you don’t need all that! You can simply start with the Bible, and pray earnestly for wisdom from the Father to use it.

She also gave some pretty awesome practical tips for using the Bible:

  • Use Scripture to teach young children how to read.
  • Grab sight words from Scripture.
  • Use a pad of paper to write out vocabulary words.
  • Use story-telling and re-telling as Language Arts.
  • Older children can use Scripture to write research papers, essays, etc.
  • Use Scripture for diagramming (older children).
  • Use the numbers given about tribes and people groups to add, subtract, etc.
  • Use Scripture as a history and geography lessons (mapping).
  • Genesis covers pretty much every field of science.
  • Learn foreign languages through Scripture (Greek and Hebrew).

This list could seriously go on and on! How awesome is it that we can find SO MUCH in Scripture alone?!

Let the Spirit Guide You

I know we all feel much more at ease and comforted when we have things in order – down to what we’re going to teach our children and what we’ll use to teach it. However, think for a moment about the weightier matters in life… in other words, what is going to matter most.

At the end of your child’s homeschooling days will they honestly say, “I succeeded because my mom used the Abeka curriuclum!”? Or do you think they’ll most likely attribute their success to the fact that you kept them home to educate and nurture them in the first place?

I’m willing to bet it would be the latter. My prayer is that we stop stressing over the little things and realize that YHVH has given us all that we need. Of course there’s nothing wrong with having and using a good curriculum to help guide us, but not that expense of being stressed out. I’d like to leave you with a quote from Anne-

“YHVH’s Word is sufficient, and the Spirit of Yah wants to be your teacher!”

CHIME IN: What are some ways you use the Bible as the primary textbook in your homeschool?

Family: Marriage & Parenting, Spiritual

Girlfriend, Stop Elevating the Proverbs 31 Woman

It’s crazy because I have referred to myself as a Proverbs-wanna-be woman, wife, and mom on several occasions. I’ve yearned for even a portion of what Scripture says about her. But, I have also found myself reading this chapter of Scripture and almost instantly filled with a depressive state of mind and feelings of not measuring up. Sound familiar?

I had a dream about writing this blog post and I wasn’t quite sure if I was going to actually do it. But you know what? I’m not the only one who needs to hear these words – Girlfriend, STOP elevating the Proverbs 31 woman!

I know that all Scripture is for our benefit, but sometimes I believe we can take things too far through the twisting, tweaking, and watering down of its context. I don’t know about you, but I will admit that I’ve done this with Proverbs 31. With motives of spirit-boosting and goal-setting, most of the time I find myself right back at square one – still lacking and not measuring up.

Another funny thing is that my husband and children have never asked me to be the Proverbs 31 wife or mom. If anything, my husband has only asked me to be his helpmate in a way that compliments his call as a man. In other words, trust him, hold down the homefront, and make it pleasant to live with me (LOL).

So how do we stop elevating the Proverbs 31 woman and use that chapter for the positive fuel that it can be? Here are my suggestions…

Focus on the Principles

It’s super easy to plug in the “checklist” of “things that make a great woman” and instantly start working at them like they’re going to give us a raise at a new job. However, the point of the attributes that Solomon’s mother pointed out was to give him examples of what to look for in a woman. These were characteristics that – as my husband would put it – make it pleasant for a man to want to be with a woman.

These are principles that we shouldn’t see from an “I can’t measure up” perspective, but a perspective that gives us something to work toward.

Focus on Purpose

Whether you are a woman, wife, and/or mom – you have a purpose. Part of that purpose is to be a woman after God’s own heart, one who seeks His presence, His will, and His ways. Within that are all the underlying things of making good choices, saying appropriate things, doing things that bring Him honor and glory – and in return, those things filter out to those around us.

I know you’re probably thinking, “But Michelle, you don’t know the temper I have…” or “I just snapped at my kids and said ALL the wrong things!” Girlfriend, I get it. Trust me. My husband and children used to refer to a side of me as an ape because when I snapped, I went crazy. Yeah, no bueno memories there.

The thing is… this is where repentance and making one right decision at a time comes in – WITHOUT feeling regret.

Focus on the Wisdom

Yes, the Proverbs 31 woman seems like she had it all together, never had any bad days, and definitely had life all figured out. Sure, you can believe that if you want; however, I choose to see the wisdom in how she handled what she did. There is wisdom in having the trust of your husband. There is wisdom in choosing to work from home and with your hands. There is wisdom in speaking of righteous things.

When it comes down to it – this chapter is in the very book of wisdom itself! It serves us well to see this chapter from that perspective. And if you ever question what kind of wisdom are we to glean, and what for –

For knowing wisdom and discipline, for understanding the words of understanding, for receiving the discipline of wisdom, righteousness, right-ruling, and straightness; for giving insight to the simple, knowledge and discretion to the young. The wise one hears and increases learning, and the understanding one gets wise counsel, for understanding a proverb and a figure, the words of the wise and their riddles. – Proverbs 1:2-6

The Final Focus

In closing I’d like to encourage you with some words of wisdom I received from two important people in my life. The first is from a woman that I met a couple of years ago who just shared an incredible talk about not being able to pour from an empty cup. She reminded those of us tuning in to breathe.

The acronym for breathe that she gave was this:

  • B: Be in God’s presence
  • R: Recognize your stressors
  • E: Evaluate your life
  • A: Accept your limitations
  • T: Take your life back
  • H: Help yourself to restore
  • E: Experience the feeling of being full

So much of this can be filtered into our journey’s of becoming women, wives, and mothers who are pleasing to ourselves, our husbands, our children, and others.

The second piece of wisdom I received was from my husband. It’s not always easy to accept what he says (mainly because he has a very straight-forward way of communicating things), but what he told me was true. He said every woman is capable of being a Proverbs 31 woman. We just have to make the choices to do so.

I believe wrapped up in what he said is understanding the very focuses discussed in this post. And if I may add, don’t overwhelm yourself with trying to make all the changes all at once. Start with making one small change at a time!

CHIME IN: What are you thoughts about the Proverbs 31 woman? Share with me in the comments, I’d love to hear from you!

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